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Weddings on the Mind

Putting mental health first in the wedding industry

By modefor, Nov 24 2020 03:32PM


This year has of course drastically changed the plans and dynamics of weddings. Small, intimate weddings have become a real thing this year - but will these continue?


Here at Mode for... we love all types and sizes of weddings, but there's something about small weddings that's really special.


Many people have different interpretations on small weddings. We would class ‘small weddings’ as anything from 2 to 20 people.


There are so many positives to having a small, intimate wedding and it doesn’t have to be a bad thing if your numbers have to be reduced due to any restrictions in place.


Less people


Whether it’s less people you need to try and please during the planning process, or having just a few people getting ready with you on the wedding morning, having a small number of guests rather than a large number will provide you with less stress during your wedding planning.

Having a small number can also make your wedding easier to plan.


Quality time


There will be so much time on your wedding day to spend with your loved ones and your new husband or wife. It’s guaranteed that time on your wedding day will fly by, so you want to make sure you spend quality time with the people who are there. Having a smaller number of guests means that you will have plenty of time to spend quality moments with the people you really want to.


Save money


Smaller weddings can save you money - fact! Many wedding suppliers have now adapted their business and can now offer smaller packages for these smaller weddings - get in touch with us if you’d like any recommendations for some fantastic suppliers.


This is a great way to save some money, but still get their fantastic service and skills; and if you want to save even more money - go midweek!


It may be really hard to decide which guests will make it onto your wedding guest list, but as long as you’re doing this for yourself and the right reasons, people will understand.


Why not arrange a large party at a later date to celebrate if you wanted to - bring your wedding photographs, have another wedding cake, party and dance the night away!


‘Oh no - we’re going to be in Tier 3 for our wedding! What can we do?’


After the recent announcement in England, some weddings due to take place soon will be taking place in Tier 3 areas. Wedding ceremonies can still take place in these areas for up to 15 people however, currently no reception is permitted.


How about some of these ideas for ways you could celebrate your wedding if your area falls into this tier:


Picnic in the Park!

Even if it rains brollies make for great pics! Plenty of National Trust, public gardens and country parks that can be utilised and visited for free.


Hire a boat!

A household can hire a canal barge each or even a rowing boat on a lake


Fish & Chips by the water!

Whether it’s at the seaside or by the river on the bandstand in Wetherby – it’s a very traditional British thing!


Take a walk!

The Moors, country parks, plenty of places to be outside, get epic photos and celebrate together safely.


Please ensure you adhere to all of the Government guidelines and Rule of Six


You can still make the most of your small wedding and have the most perfect day! If you have any other ideas, let us know at @weddingsonthemind over on Instagram.


Keri x


Photo by Adam Wilkinson Photography


By modefor, Sep 12 2020 02:57PM

According to research, one of the most stressful things you can do in your life is get married. Although weddings are a lovely and special occasion, the planning and time it can take to create this perfect day can put huge strain on your mental health.


It is also the same for those working within the wedding industry. All wedding suppliers want to make sure everything is absolutely perfect for the wedding couple on their special day, so although this is their passion and what they excel at, it can also impact on their mental health.

Especially at the moment.


With COVID-19 restrictions causing thousands and thousands of changes within the wedding industry (and many more to come!), although the wedding couple suffer the most, so do wedding suppliers.


For suppliers who are self-employed this not just affects their business, it affects their livelihood. If they don’t earn money, food doesn’t go on the table and bills don’t get paid - it’s that simple.


That’s why we're so keen on helping to promote the ‘postpone don’t cancel’ movement throughout the wedding industry. Postponing your wedding day to another date in the future can help keep wedding suppliers in business, meaning your wedding day can still happen, as you wanted, with them at a later date.


Here at Mode For..., we are hosting a completely free mental health awareness session on Monday 21st September at 4pm, for anyone in the wedding industry. This session will help you become more mental health aware and help you to identify early signs and symptoms of mental ill health of not only yourself, but also your clients and colleagues. There will also be an open and honest Q&A with weddings and event industry professional, Mode For… Director and mental health advocate and trainer for Mental Health First Aid England, Tabby Kerwin.


It’s all completely free!


To sign up, click here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mental-health-awareness-in-the-wedding-industry-tickets-117503390805


We all have mental health, so let’s talk about it!


Love Keri x




By modefor, Oct 24 2019 08:18AM

A quick look at some areas of your wedding you need to be honest with from Pinterest to Budgets and Family...


One of the most valuable things we can be is honest but, being honest with ourselves is tricky and this is especially true when it comes to our own wedding.


Therefore, it’s time to get honest, realistic and believe in your own integrity when it comes to planning your wedding.


Let me break it down a little into three key areas, in no particular order (and btw… there are plenty more things you can get honest about, not just these! Don’t even start me on children at weddings and traditions such as cake cutting and first dances!).


Pinterest

Firstly, whilst I love Pinterest for inspiration and general nosiness, get off it when making your final planning decisions for your wedding. Get your own wedding and stop stealing someone else’s! Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what YOU and YOUR partner really want. Don’t just copy someone else’s wedding or ideas that some professionals put together for a styled shoot. These images are there to be inspiration for you and not for you to carbon copy. So, close your eyes, imagine your big day… what does it look like? Honestly? Now create this vision.


Budget

Yep, the big ‘taboo’ that you need to be really honest about because quite simply, starting married life in debt purely from a party you were paying for where everyone else ate and drank sucks! So, be realistic and honest. Pick your budget truthfully and stick to it. You can have the most amazing wedding on a small budget. These big fancy expensive weddings do not make you any happier in married life than an elopement and quiet dinner with just the two of you.


Small budget does not mean missing out. It’s an opportunity to get wise and savvy financially and produce a wedding which is the truest reflection of you both as a couple with the people you love most around you.


Which brings me on to my third point…


Family

Get really brutally honest here. If you don’t like them, don’t see them and have nothing to do with them, why would you invite them? Especially if it was at the detriment of a friend who has shared so much with you or quite simply just makes you laugh and you want them at your party? Being related does not give people the right to expect an invitation to your wedding.


Now, I’m not suggesting a lack of sensitivity and being mean in not inviting family members but remember this is your wedding and you get to choose who you share it with. You could always do a separate informal family party to invite them all if you have heaps of family but actually want some friends at your wedding.


You must be honest to yourselves and do exactly what you feel comfortable with. Don’t think you are at the mercy of any historic traditions and protocols; you’re not. This is about the two of you and by the way, just because someone contributes to funding your wedding does not give them the right to dictate your guest list.


Be calm, compromise but be honest about your feelings and be empowered to take control of your wedding.


Want a chat about how you can keep calm, keep anxiety at bay and be honest with yourself to have a wedding that truly reflects you? Then drop me an email at [email protected]


Much Love

Tabby xxx



Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography
Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography

By modefor, Sep 3 2018 10:20AM



After three long years of planning and preparing, Gemma and Aaron got Married last weekend at Hargate Hall and we had so much fun celebrating with them.


The Friday set up was a family affair, with everyone getting stuck in and helping to prepare the marquee. As we all worked together to string the beautiful ivy from the ceilings and draping it throughout the marquee, we could hear the rain. Hammering down, it had gone really dark outside and every time we carried things from the car we got soaked!


Gemma looked at me and asked if the weather would be like this tomorrow? Now at Mode For… we are complete perfectionists and control freaks (it’s why we are so good at planning weddings) but the one thing we can’t control is the weather! Fast forward to Saturday afternoon and as the happy couple burst through the beautiful doors at Hargate Hall we wished them congratulations in the glorious sunshine. Gemma turned to me and said, “I can’t believe this weather, it’s beautiful!”.


Rain or shine your wedding will be beautiful too. But the best part of any wedding for us is seeing the bride and groom so completely happy and relaxed. Gemma and Aaron were so happy, stress free and calm - they were able to enjoy every moment of their wedding day.


As well as coordinating the wedding day, Mode For… catered for the wedding breakfast. Preparing our signature delicious antipasti sharing platters: piled high with Italian deli meats and cheeses, mountains of fresh rustic bread and marinated vegetables for starters. Followed by Italian style chicken wrapped in bacon stuffed full with pesto and smothered in our (secret recipe) house tomato and basil sauce, with stacks of dauphinoise potatoes and steamed vegetables. It was a feast! For dessert all the guests tucked in to the incredible wedding cake and scrumptious brownies, Eton mess and cookies, provided by their incredible family.


There were so many amazing homemade touches and thoughtful additions to Gemma and Aaron’s wedding, the memory table and beautiful guest book showed how much planning and attention to detail the couple had.


Gemma & Aaron, we wish you all the happiness in the world, thank you for letting us be such a big part of your special day.


Are you worried about feeling stressed on your wedding day? Are you feeling the pressure? Do you need help or tips on how to stay calm? We pride ourselves on creating the most relaxed and calm weddings. Tabby, our in house #Weddingfixer has an amazing free Facebook group that can help even the most anxious of brides www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer. Whatever you do please don’t worry. Sunshine or showers - your wedding will be great!

Much Love,

Laura xxx



By modefor, Aug 13 2018 07:32AM

All things bright and beautiful as The Arches is transformed into an industrial garden paradise for the wedding of Estee and Josh.


On Saturday the 28th of July, our favourite industrial wedding venue was breathtakingly transformed into a chic, urban glasshouse with a distinctively botanical feel.


The large glass windows were expertly styled with lush displays of flora and fauna. Vibrant green pot plants and pops of zesty oranges and pinks added to the tropical feel whilst an abundance of ferns and foliage added softness to the botanical garden vibe.


This relaxed and tranquil sanctuary was the perfect location for Estee and Josh to celebrate their wedding day with family and friends and what a fabulously relaxed and happy time was had by all!


The 2pm ceremony was very much a family affair, a joyous occasion full of song, dance and praise with Estee and Josh's family and friends taking a lead role in the proceedings. A live band, made up of friends of the bride and groom provided wonderful music throughout the hour-long ceremony and Estee's bridesmaid's beautiful singing voice had guests dancing and singing in the aisles, as they embraced the joyful atmosphere.


The stormy weather on the day didn't dampen spirits and several rainstorms and deluges only added to the magical atmosphere. As thunder rumbled in the distance, there was a pause for reflection before more happiness and rejoicing, as Mr and Mrs Mellor danced down the aisle whilst family and friends clapped and cheered.


So much singing and dancing was clearly very thirsty work and as the cloud bursts continued after the ceremony, guests sipped on Pimms cocktails and relaxed and chatted in the beautiful garden like surroundings.


Bride Estee looked stunningly beautiful in her dress, a champagne bodice overlaid with an intricate floral themed lace design, accessorized perfectly with a pretty art deco style bridal halo. Her effortlessly romantic bridesmaids were dressed in flowing Grecian style gowns and floral bouquets and halos were kept pure and neutral. An image that wouldn't have looked out of place in a glossy bridal magazine. Just beautiful!


Our fantastic in-house caterers 'Eat Me-Drink Me' provided a wonderful wedding breakfast, the 'Middle Eastern' sharing platters seemed to prove very popular as guests chatted, socialised and enjoyed delicious Moroccan spiced hummus, sun blushed tomatoes, baba ghanoush and flat breads followed by a main course of delicious thyme roasted chicken and baked chocolate brownie for desert. What a feast!


The love and friendship between Estee, Josh and their families and friends was plain to see. A perfectly relaxed day bursting with so much joy, peace and happiness.


If you're going to get wed.....#wedlikemels!


Love from,


Karen x




Cake by Sweet Sugar Sixpence
Cake by Sweet Sugar Sixpence
Mode for's Karen with the happy couple
Mode for's Karen with the happy couple