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Weddings on the Mind

Putting mental health first in the wedding industry

By modefor, Nov 24 2020 03:32PM


This year has of course drastically changed the plans and dynamics of weddings. Small, intimate weddings have become a real thing this year - but will these continue?


Here at Mode for... we love all types and sizes of weddings, but there's something about small weddings that's really special.


Many people have different interpretations on small weddings. We would class ‘small weddings’ as anything from 2 to 20 people.


There are so many positives to having a small, intimate wedding and it doesn’t have to be a bad thing if your numbers have to be reduced due to any restrictions in place.


Less people


Whether it’s less people you need to try and please during the planning process, or having just a few people getting ready with you on the wedding morning, having a small number of guests rather than a large number will provide you with less stress during your wedding planning.

Having a small number can also make your wedding easier to plan.


Quality time


There will be so much time on your wedding day to spend with your loved ones and your new husband or wife. It’s guaranteed that time on your wedding day will fly by, so you want to make sure you spend quality time with the people who are there. Having a smaller number of guests means that you will have plenty of time to spend quality moments with the people you really want to.


Save money


Smaller weddings can save you money - fact! Many wedding suppliers have now adapted their business and can now offer smaller packages for these smaller weddings - get in touch with us if you’d like any recommendations for some fantastic suppliers.


This is a great way to save some money, but still get their fantastic service and skills; and if you want to save even more money - go midweek!


It may be really hard to decide which guests will make it onto your wedding guest list, but as long as you’re doing this for yourself and the right reasons, people will understand.


Why not arrange a large party at a later date to celebrate if you wanted to - bring your wedding photographs, have another wedding cake, party and dance the night away!


‘Oh no - we’re going to be in Tier 3 for our wedding! What can we do?’


After the recent announcement in England, some weddings due to take place soon will be taking place in Tier 3 areas. Wedding ceremonies can still take place in these areas for up to 15 people however, currently no reception is permitted.


How about some of these ideas for ways you could celebrate your wedding if your area falls into this tier:


Picnic in the Park!

Even if it rains brollies make for great pics! Plenty of National Trust, public gardens and country parks that can be utilised and visited for free.


Hire a boat!

A household can hire a canal barge each or even a rowing boat on a lake


Fish & Chips by the water!

Whether it’s at the seaside or by the river on the bandstand in Wetherby – it’s a very traditional British thing!


Take a walk!

The Moors, country parks, plenty of places to be outside, get epic photos and celebrate together safely.


Please ensure you adhere to all of the Government guidelines and Rule of Six


You can still make the most of your small wedding and have the most perfect day! If you have any other ideas, let us know at @weddingsonthemind over on Instagram.


Keri x


Photo by Adam Wilkinson Photography


By modefor, Sep 12 2020 02:57PM

According to research, one of the most stressful things you can do in your life is get married. Although weddings are a lovely and special occasion, the planning and time it can take to create this perfect day can put huge strain on your mental health.


It is also the same for those working within the wedding industry. All wedding suppliers want to make sure everything is absolutely perfect for the wedding couple on their special day, so although this is their passion and what they excel at, it can also impact on their mental health.

Especially at the moment.


With COVID-19 restrictions causing thousands and thousands of changes within the wedding industry (and many more to come!), although the wedding couple suffer the most, so do wedding suppliers.


For suppliers who are self-employed this not just affects their business, it affects their livelihood. If they don’t earn money, food doesn’t go on the table and bills don’t get paid - it’s that simple.


That’s why we're so keen on helping to promote the ‘postpone don’t cancel’ movement throughout the wedding industry. Postponing your wedding day to another date in the future can help keep wedding suppliers in business, meaning your wedding day can still happen, as you wanted, with them at a later date.


Here at Mode For..., we are hosting a completely free mental health awareness session on Monday 21st September at 4pm, for anyone in the wedding industry. This session will help you become more mental health aware and help you to identify early signs and symptoms of mental ill health of not only yourself, but also your clients and colleagues. There will also be an open and honest Q&A with weddings and event industry professional, Mode For… Director and mental health advocate and trainer for Mental Health First Aid England, Tabby Kerwin.


It’s all completely free!


To sign up, click here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mental-health-awareness-in-the-wedding-industry-tickets-117503390805


We all have mental health, so let’s talk about it!


Love Keri x




By modefor, Jun 12 2019 08:58AM

We’ve all heard the term ‘Bridezilla.’


I’m so thankful that I’ve always had the best clients and never had any ‘Bridezillas.’


But I want to introduce you to another player in the wedding planning and wedding day scenario.

The ‘Mumzilla.’


One of the greatest causes of stress for couples when planning a wedding is a ‘Mumzilla,’ as this is a creature no-one will or can say ‘No’ too!


But I do say a massive ‘NO’ to the Mumzilla.


When it comes to planning a wedding, there is a role for everyone to play, even if that’s just a supporting role, but the most important thing to remember is this wedding only belongs to two people; the couple getting married.


Unfortunately, whilst sometimes it does come from a place of love and wanting to help, some Mums overstep the mark; running the show, making the decisions, controlling the guest list, deciding on the décor, choosing the canapés and even picking the dress. None of these responsibilities fall on a ‘mum’ unless it has been specifically requested or for a particular reason that the couple can’t do it themselves.


Now, I’ve actually met a few Mumzillas and I am not scared of them and have put them back in their cages, but often I see Mums swooping in and controlling the whole shebang when the couple would love nothing more than a ‘do’ in the back garden with all their mates and beer pong, but what they got was a full stately manor with white doves.


The bottom line is, if you’re a Mum, rein it in. Check in with yourself that you're not being a little OTT. This is NOT your wedding. Be supportive, be exactly what your offspring need you to be, but don’t take over the show and you certainly don’t get to dictate what and how things are done or who comes to celebrate, even if you are footing the bill. Of course, you get to make requests and have ideas and be a part of the process if that’s right, but even if you’re financially responsible, this payment does not give you the authority to hijack the whole day.


Let the couple have their day.


Help your daughter be the calm bride or son be the calm groom. Help, love and support, please do not add to the stress, strain and already present pressure that comes with planning a wedding.


Got a Mumzilla issue? Drop me a message and I’ll help you reduce the stress levels.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy

By modefor, Sep 21 2018 10:11AM


The sound of an acoustic guitar floated through the lawns at Hargate Hall this weekend, as our beautiful bride Sarah, took the long walk from the main hall to picturesque summer house in the garden.


Green Days’ - Time of your life was the couples chosen soundtrack. The sun shone and a light breeze genteelly rustled the trees, Alex looked up and smiled at his bride as she walked towards him. Sarah looked stunning, with an exquisitely detailed wedding dress that just kissed the floor and a bouquet of bright colour flowers that only added to Sarah's beauty.


This was the first outdoor ceremony I've seen at Hargate and it was pretty special! Sarah and Alex’s wedding was the perfect start to our month of September weddings at Hargate Hall.


The sun continued to shine as guests drank prossecco and cocktails after the ceremony on the Terrace. The groomsmen had set up an incredible cocktail bar and all the children played garden games and enjoyed the bouncy castle. It was such a lovely atmosphere; a wedding filled with laughter, love and friendship.


The wedding breakfast was incredible too and we loved supplying the food. Our favourite Italian style sharing starter boards of cheeses, meats and antipasti veg. followed by delicious chicken and mash, accompanied by fresh chanteray carrots and crisp green beans. For dessert we served an amazing sharing plate, piled high with chocolate torte, lemon tart and local Bakewell tart, with of course - lashings of fresh cream!


We loved decorating the marquee with over 100 colourful lanterns, adorning the ceiling and transforming our beloved marquee. With all the flowers and centre pieces styled by Mode For... it was a busy weekend for us.


Sarah and Alex fell in love with Hargate Hall and we are so happy we could make their wedding day dreams come true. Wishing you so much happiness.


Much Love, Laura xxx


Venue: Hargate Hall

Flowers: Mode for...Events

Styling: Mode for.. Events

Food: Mode for...Events

Co-ordination: Mode for...Events


By modefor, Sep 3 2018 10:20AM



After three long years of planning and preparing, Gemma and Aaron got Married last weekend at Hargate Hall and we had so much fun celebrating with them.


The Friday set up was a family affair, with everyone getting stuck in and helping to prepare the marquee. As we all worked together to string the beautiful ivy from the ceilings and draping it throughout the marquee, we could hear the rain. Hammering down, it had gone really dark outside and every time we carried things from the car we got soaked!


Gemma looked at me and asked if the weather would be like this tomorrow? Now at Mode For… we are complete perfectionists and control freaks (it’s why we are so good at planning weddings) but the one thing we can’t control is the weather! Fast forward to Saturday afternoon and as the happy couple burst through the beautiful doors at Hargate Hall we wished them congratulations in the glorious sunshine. Gemma turned to me and said, “I can’t believe this weather, it’s beautiful!”.


Rain or shine your wedding will be beautiful too. But the best part of any wedding for us is seeing the bride and groom so completely happy and relaxed. Gemma and Aaron were so happy, stress free and calm - they were able to enjoy every moment of their wedding day.


As well as coordinating the wedding day, Mode For… catered for the wedding breakfast. Preparing our signature delicious antipasti sharing platters: piled high with Italian deli meats and cheeses, mountains of fresh rustic bread and marinated vegetables for starters. Followed by Italian style chicken wrapped in bacon stuffed full with pesto and smothered in our (secret recipe) house tomato and basil sauce, with stacks of dauphinoise potatoes and steamed vegetables. It was a feast! For dessert all the guests tucked in to the incredible wedding cake and scrumptious brownies, Eton mess and cookies, provided by their incredible family.


There were so many amazing homemade touches and thoughtful additions to Gemma and Aaron’s wedding, the memory table and beautiful guest book showed how much planning and attention to detail the couple had.


Gemma & Aaron, we wish you all the happiness in the world, thank you for letting us be such a big part of your special day.


Are you worried about feeling stressed on your wedding day? Are you feeling the pressure? Do you need help or tips on how to stay calm? We pride ourselves on creating the most relaxed and calm weddings. Tabby, our in house #Weddingfixer has an amazing free Facebook group that can help even the most anxious of brides www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer. Whatever you do please don’t worry. Sunshine or showers - your wedding will be great!

Much Love,

Laura xxx