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Weddings on the Mind

Putting mental health first in the wedding industry

By modefor, Nov 24 2020 03:32PM


This year has of course drastically changed the plans and dynamics of weddings. Small, intimate weddings have become a real thing this year - but will these continue?


Here at Mode for... we love all types and sizes of weddings, but there's something about small weddings that's really special.


Many people have different interpretations on small weddings. We would class ‘small weddings’ as anything from 2 to 20 people.


There are so many positives to having a small, intimate wedding and it doesn’t have to be a bad thing if your numbers have to be reduced due to any restrictions in place.


Less people


Whether it’s less people you need to try and please during the planning process, or having just a few people getting ready with you on the wedding morning, having a small number of guests rather than a large number will provide you with less stress during your wedding planning.

Having a small number can also make your wedding easier to plan.


Quality time


There will be so much time on your wedding day to spend with your loved ones and your new husband or wife. It’s guaranteed that time on your wedding day will fly by, so you want to make sure you spend quality time with the people who are there. Having a smaller number of guests means that you will have plenty of time to spend quality moments with the people you really want to.


Save money


Smaller weddings can save you money - fact! Many wedding suppliers have now adapted their business and can now offer smaller packages for these smaller weddings - get in touch with us if you’d like any recommendations for some fantastic suppliers.


This is a great way to save some money, but still get their fantastic service and skills; and if you want to save even more money - go midweek!


It may be really hard to decide which guests will make it onto your wedding guest list, but as long as you’re doing this for yourself and the right reasons, people will understand.


Why not arrange a large party at a later date to celebrate if you wanted to - bring your wedding photographs, have another wedding cake, party and dance the night away!


‘Oh no - we’re going to be in Tier 3 for our wedding! What can we do?’


After the recent announcement in England, some weddings due to take place soon will be taking place in Tier 3 areas. Wedding ceremonies can still take place in these areas for up to 15 people however, currently no reception is permitted.


How about some of these ideas for ways you could celebrate your wedding if your area falls into this tier:


Picnic in the Park!

Even if it rains brollies make for great pics! Plenty of National Trust, public gardens and country parks that can be utilised and visited for free.


Hire a boat!

A household can hire a canal barge each or even a rowing boat on a lake


Fish & Chips by the water!

Whether it’s at the seaside or by the river on the bandstand in Wetherby – it’s a very traditional British thing!


Take a walk!

The Moors, country parks, plenty of places to be outside, get epic photos and celebrate together safely.


Please ensure you adhere to all of the Government guidelines and Rule of Six


You can still make the most of your small wedding and have the most perfect day! If you have any other ideas, let us know at @weddingsonthemind over on Instagram.


Keri x


Photo by Adam Wilkinson Photography


By modefor, Oct 24 2019 08:18AM

A quick look at some areas of your wedding you need to be honest with from Pinterest to Budgets and Family...


One of the most valuable things we can be is honest but, being honest with ourselves is tricky and this is especially true when it comes to our own wedding.


Therefore, it’s time to get honest, realistic and believe in your own integrity when it comes to planning your wedding.


Let me break it down a little into three key areas, in no particular order (and btw… there are plenty more things you can get honest about, not just these! Don’t even start me on children at weddings and traditions such as cake cutting and first dances!).


Pinterest

Firstly, whilst I love Pinterest for inspiration and general nosiness, get off it when making your final planning decisions for your wedding. Get your own wedding and stop stealing someone else’s! Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what YOU and YOUR partner really want. Don’t just copy someone else’s wedding or ideas that some professionals put together for a styled shoot. These images are there to be inspiration for you and not for you to carbon copy. So, close your eyes, imagine your big day… what does it look like? Honestly? Now create this vision.


Budget

Yep, the big ‘taboo’ that you need to be really honest about because quite simply, starting married life in debt purely from a party you were paying for where everyone else ate and drank sucks! So, be realistic and honest. Pick your budget truthfully and stick to it. You can have the most amazing wedding on a small budget. These big fancy expensive weddings do not make you any happier in married life than an elopement and quiet dinner with just the two of you.


Small budget does not mean missing out. It’s an opportunity to get wise and savvy financially and produce a wedding which is the truest reflection of you both as a couple with the people you love most around you.


Which brings me on to my third point…


Family

Get really brutally honest here. If you don’t like them, don’t see them and have nothing to do with them, why would you invite them? Especially if it was at the detriment of a friend who has shared so much with you or quite simply just makes you laugh and you want them at your party? Being related does not give people the right to expect an invitation to your wedding.


Now, I’m not suggesting a lack of sensitivity and being mean in not inviting family members but remember this is your wedding and you get to choose who you share it with. You could always do a separate informal family party to invite them all if you have heaps of family but actually want some friends at your wedding.


You must be honest to yourselves and do exactly what you feel comfortable with. Don’t think you are at the mercy of any historic traditions and protocols; you’re not. This is about the two of you and by the way, just because someone contributes to funding your wedding does not give them the right to dictate your guest list.


Be calm, compromise but be honest about your feelings and be empowered to take control of your wedding.


Want a chat about how you can keep calm, keep anxiety at bay and be honest with yourself to have a wedding that truly reflects you? Then drop me an email at [email protected]


Much Love

Tabby xxx



Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography
Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography

By modefor, Jun 12 2019 08:58AM

We’ve all heard the term ‘Bridezilla.’


I’m so thankful that I’ve always had the best clients and never had any ‘Bridezillas.’


But I want to introduce you to another player in the wedding planning and wedding day scenario.

The ‘Mumzilla.’


One of the greatest causes of stress for couples when planning a wedding is a ‘Mumzilla,’ as this is a creature no-one will or can say ‘No’ too!


But I do say a massive ‘NO’ to the Mumzilla.


When it comes to planning a wedding, there is a role for everyone to play, even if that’s just a supporting role, but the most important thing to remember is this wedding only belongs to two people; the couple getting married.


Unfortunately, whilst sometimes it does come from a place of love and wanting to help, some Mums overstep the mark; running the show, making the decisions, controlling the guest list, deciding on the décor, choosing the canapés and even picking the dress. None of these responsibilities fall on a ‘mum’ unless it has been specifically requested or for a particular reason that the couple can’t do it themselves.


Now, I’ve actually met a few Mumzillas and I am not scared of them and have put them back in their cages, but often I see Mums swooping in and controlling the whole shebang when the couple would love nothing more than a ‘do’ in the back garden with all their mates and beer pong, but what they got was a full stately manor with white doves.


The bottom line is, if you’re a Mum, rein it in. Check in with yourself that you're not being a little OTT. This is NOT your wedding. Be supportive, be exactly what your offspring need you to be, but don’t take over the show and you certainly don’t get to dictate what and how things are done or who comes to celebrate, even if you are footing the bill. Of course, you get to make requests and have ideas and be a part of the process if that’s right, but even if you’re financially responsible, this payment does not give you the authority to hijack the whole day.


Let the couple have their day.


Help your daughter be the calm bride or son be the calm groom. Help, love and support, please do not add to the stress, strain and already present pressure that comes with planning a wedding.


Got a Mumzilla issue? Drop me a message and I’ll help you reduce the stress levels.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy

By modefor, Sep 21 2018 10:11AM


The sound of an acoustic guitar floated through the lawns at Hargate Hall this weekend, as our beautiful bride Sarah, took the long walk from the main hall to picturesque summer house in the garden.


Green Days’ - Time of your life was the couples chosen soundtrack. The sun shone and a light breeze genteelly rustled the trees, Alex looked up and smiled at his bride as she walked towards him. Sarah looked stunning, with an exquisitely detailed wedding dress that just kissed the floor and a bouquet of bright colour flowers that only added to Sarah's beauty.


This was the first outdoor ceremony I've seen at Hargate and it was pretty special! Sarah and Alex’s wedding was the perfect start to our month of September weddings at Hargate Hall.


The sun continued to shine as guests drank prossecco and cocktails after the ceremony on the Terrace. The groomsmen had set up an incredible cocktail bar and all the children played garden games and enjoyed the bouncy castle. It was such a lovely atmosphere; a wedding filled with laughter, love and friendship.


The wedding breakfast was incredible too and we loved supplying the food. Our favourite Italian style sharing starter boards of cheeses, meats and antipasti veg. followed by delicious chicken and mash, accompanied by fresh chanteray carrots and crisp green beans. For dessert we served an amazing sharing plate, piled high with chocolate torte, lemon tart and local Bakewell tart, with of course - lashings of fresh cream!


We loved decorating the marquee with over 100 colourful lanterns, adorning the ceiling and transforming our beloved marquee. With all the flowers and centre pieces styled by Mode For... it was a busy weekend for us.


Sarah and Alex fell in love with Hargate Hall and we are so happy we could make their wedding day dreams come true. Wishing you so much happiness.


Much Love, Laura xxx


Venue: Hargate Hall

Flowers: Mode for...Events

Styling: Mode for.. Events

Food: Mode for...Events

Co-ordination: Mode for...Events


By modefor, Sep 10 2018 06:18AM


On Saturday the 25th of August we celebrated the wedding of our wonderful couple, Ruth and Chris.


The industrial setting of The Arches, once again saw an incredible transformation with creative styling, stunning floral displays and of course lots of individual and personal touches carefully selected by our lovely bride and groom.


The styling on the day focussed on striking rose gold metallics complimented by the delicate hues of dusky pink and violet blooms which added a dash of glam to the venue's industrial stone work. A lush green foilage wall provided a stunning back drop for the wedding ceremony itself and pretty candle lit lanterns dotted along the aisle added that extra romantic sparkle.


Bride Ruth's creative and artistic flair could be seen all around the venue, a beautiful hand drawn table plan and carefully handwritten signage, added a lovely personal touch. Ruth's Grandad had also made some giant, wooden light up letters of the couples initials which were a great focal point.


The scene was set for a fabulous day ahead and as guests arrived for the 2pm ceremony they were welcomed by wonderful live music from a musician who would provide an eclectic musical sound track for guests to dance and sing a long to throughout the whole day.


Ruth looked simply gorgeous when she arrived. Her stunning, traditional white gown, with a pretty sweet heart neckline and all over shimmer lace was perfectly accessorised with a flowing white veil and bridal bouquet of lavender tones and deep blue french hydrangeas. Her pretty team of bridesmaids, dressed in a powdery, cool grey complemented the silvery grey and white marble effect wedding cake, lovingly designed and made by Ruth's Grandma; Ruth's favourite colour!


After a relaxed ceremony and fabulous photos by Adam Wilkinson Photography Mr and Mrs Pickard and guests enjoyed a delicious wedding breakfast by in-house caterers Eat me - Drink Me. As guests made their way to be seated they 'oohed and ahhed' at childhood photographs of Ruth and Chris which provided cute table number settings. The children were kept well entertained with treasure chest colouring sets and a children's corner set up with jigsaws and fun activities to keep them busy!


As the party and dancing continued into the evening, guests were treated to a sweety station and wonderful street-food.


It was such a privilege to co-ordinate this wedding and work with such a lovely couple. A fantastic day was had by all.


Congratulations Mr and Mrs Pickard!


With love,


Karen xx


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