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By modefor, Jun 27 2018 08:00AM

Photo (c) Capture the Love
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It’s so overwhelming…

I don’t know where to start…

Everyone has an opinion about how our wedding should be…

I just want to elope and leave everyone behind…

I’m not even looking forward to my wedding anymore…

I don’t want my family there…

I’m scared of everyone looking at me and being centre of attention…


Any of these statements ring true with you?


These are real statements I’ve heard from brides and grooms who are trying to plan their own wedding and I find it heart-breaking that anyone should feel that way (though I do like the sound and idea of a romantic elopement!).


Planning a wedding should be something that brings happiness; where you can enjoy the process as much as the end result.


The whole planning process should be filled with fun, happiness, inspiration, creativity and discovery. But I know it’s sometimes so hard to overcome the ‘overwhelm.’


Feeling overwhelmed can happen to any of us; it’s an emotion that can very easily take a grasp of us and invite its friends, anxiety, misery and even sometimes depression to the party. So, remember you’re the host of both parties… the one in your head with all your emotions and your wedding. Did you watch that movie ‘Inside Out?’ You need to choose to override ‘overwhelm.’


My advice is to take it step by step. First of all, make a point to be strong in your stance that the wedding is about you and your partner, no-one else; it should be a privilege for anyone else to be involved, not a done deal that parents, Grandparents, family of friends take control, irrespective of who is footing the bill. This is about you as a couple and you only; end of.


Decide things together as a couple; close your eyes and imagine your day, how it feels, sounds, tastes and looks and keep this visualisation strong when you’re planning. Visualise yourself at your wedding looking and feeling happy and when wedding planning starts to overwhelm take a moment to bring this visualisation to the forefront of your memory. This is a great technique for not only coping with overwhelm but deciding on elements of your special day. Don’t just rely on Pinterest and magazines, use the power of visualisation to bring your own wedding to life.


If you can bring the visualisation along with its friends creativity, excitement and happiness to the party in your head, you are going to start to love the wedding planning process.


I’ll be focussing more on controlling anxiety, nerves and overwhelm over a series of blogs and articles dedicated to the Calm Bride and in my group #theweddingfixer at www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer so why not join me and share your experiences.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


AKA #theweddingfixer



By modefor, Jun 4 2018 09:41AM



Are you living overseas but getting married in the UK? Maybe you’re returning home to be amongst friends and family for your special day?


Planning a wedding can be time consuming, stressful and demanding at the best times, but when you add in several thousands of miles distance between you and your venue, the planning process is even harder.


I have been so fortunate to help couples living overseas plan their weddings here in the UK and one thing I can tell you is, that with the right approach and strategy, the whole process should be as smooth and stress free as anything. Check out this gorgeous wedding of Lisa and Alan who married at The Arches @ Dean Clough in Halifax but actually live in Singapore. (Check out their wedding album HERE).


To help you on your planning journey I have my top three tips for couples living overseas and planning their Destination UK Wedding.


1. Get organised about what you can do from abroad


Whether you live in the UK or overseas, your planning strategy will start out the same. First things first, decide your budget and guest list and this will help you narrow down your searches. Also, decide geographically where you want to host your wedding. It may be that you’re heading ‘home’ or to the place you first met.

After that, the internet is your friend and so much research of venues and suppliers can be done online. There is also a wealth of check-lists available on the internet to download and utilise (check ours out too).

Email potential venues and suppliers for quotes and be sure to tell them you are living overseas so all communication will be via email or Skype or through a delegated family member or friend.


2. Delegate


Delegation is key. Organise yourself an awesome team of trusted family members or friends that know you really well and you can trust to visit venues and suppliers. Make a list of questions to ask and that they know exactly what you do and don’t want and also ask them to take photos and videos too. Why not get them to Facetime you as they visit people or places so you really feel a part of the whole adventure.

I would also suggest keeping suppliers to a minimum so you can keep better control of things from afar. For example, your caterers may be able to supply your wedding cake as well, or your florist could do all your venue styling or hire a wedding planner or coordinator who also does event design and floristry.


3. Ask the Experts for the rest


Once you’ve done as much as you can and delegated a portion of the visits and planning to friends and family, don’t try and ‘go it alone’ for the rest. Find yourself a good wedding planner that will help you plan and coordinate as much or as little as you need help with. It may be that your venue’s in-house coordinator will help you with everything or search for an independent planner. Remember when choosing someone, compatibility is key and you must ‘connect’ with them so they totally understand you, your needs and desires and your constrictions of living overseas.


If you follow these three top tips it will set you on a good and organised path to organising your Destination UK Wedding and as always, if you want any more hints, advice or inspiration just drop me a message or join my stress-free wedding planning group at www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer


Much Love

Tabby xx






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