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By modefor, Jun 12 2019 08:58AM

We’ve all heard the term ‘Bridezilla.’


I’m so thankful that I’ve always had the best clients and never had any ‘Bridezillas.’


But I want to introduce you to another player in the wedding planning and wedding day scenario.

The ‘Mumzilla.’


One of the greatest causes of stress for couples when planning a wedding is a ‘Mumzilla,’ as this is a creature no-one will or can say ‘No’ too!


But I do say a massive ‘NO’ to the Mumzilla.


When it comes to planning a wedding, there is a role for everyone to play, even if that’s just a supporting role, but the most important thing to remember is this wedding only belongs to two people; the couple getting married.


Unfortunately, whilst sometimes it does come from a place of love and wanting to help, some Mums overstep the mark; running the show, making the decisions, controlling the guest list, deciding on the décor, choosing the canapés and even picking the dress. None of these responsibilities fall on a ‘mum’ unless it has been specifically requested or for a particular reason that the couple can’t do it themselves.


Now, I’ve actually met a few Mumzillas and I am not scared of them and have put them back in their cages, but often I see Mums swooping in and controlling the whole shebang when the couple would love nothing more than a ‘do’ in the back garden with all their mates and beer pong, but what they got was a full stately manor with white doves.


The bottom line is, if you’re a Mum, rein it in. Check in with yourself that you're not being a little OTT. This is NOT your wedding. Be supportive, be exactly what your offspring need you to be, but don’t take over the show and you certainly don’t get to dictate what and how things are done or who comes to celebrate, even if you are footing the bill. Of course, you get to make requests and have ideas and be a part of the process if that’s right, but even if you’re financially responsible, this payment does not give you the authority to hijack the whole day.


Let the couple have their day.


Help your daughter be the calm bride or son be the calm groom. Help, love and support, please do not add to the stress, strain and already present pressure that comes with planning a wedding.


Got a Mumzilla issue? Drop me a message and I’ll help you reduce the stress levels.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy

By modefor, Sep 21 2018 10:11AM


The sound of an acoustic guitar floated through the lawns at Hargate Hall this weekend, as our beautiful bride Sarah, took the long walk from the main hall to picturesque summer house in the garden.


Green Days’ - Time of your life was the couples chosen soundtrack. The sun shone and a light breeze genteelly rustled the trees, Alex looked up and smiled at his bride as she walked towards him. Sarah looked stunning, with an exquisitely detailed wedding dress that just kissed the floor and a bouquet of bright colour flowers that only added to Sarah's beauty.


This was the first outdoor ceremony I've seen at Hargate and it was pretty special! Sarah and Alex’s wedding was the perfect start to our month of September weddings at Hargate Hall.


The sun continued to shine as guests drank prossecco and cocktails after the ceremony on the Terrace. The groomsmen had set up an incredible cocktail bar and all the children played garden games and enjoyed the bouncy castle. It was such a lovely atmosphere; a wedding filled with laughter, love and friendship.


The wedding breakfast was incredible too and we loved supplying the food. Our favourite Italian style sharing starter boards of cheeses, meats and antipasti veg. followed by delicious chicken and mash, accompanied by fresh chanteray carrots and crisp green beans. For dessert we served an amazing sharing plate, piled high with chocolate torte, lemon tart and local Bakewell tart, with of course - lashings of fresh cream!


We loved decorating the marquee with over 100 colourful lanterns, adorning the ceiling and transforming our beloved marquee. With all the flowers and centre pieces styled by Mode For... it was a busy weekend for us.


Sarah and Alex fell in love with Hargate Hall and we are so happy we could make their wedding day dreams come true. Wishing you so much happiness.


Much Love, Laura xxx


Venue: Hargate Hall

Flowers: Mode for...Events

Styling: Mode for.. Events

Food: Mode for...Events

Co-ordination: Mode for...Events


By modefor, Jun 27 2018 08:00AM

Photo (c) Capture the Love
Photo (c) Capture the Love

It’s so overwhelming…

I don’t know where to start…

Everyone has an opinion about how our wedding should be…

I just want to elope and leave everyone behind…

I’m not even looking forward to my wedding anymore…

I don’t want my family there…

I’m scared of everyone looking at me and being centre of attention…


Any of these statements ring true with you?


These are real statements I’ve heard from brides and grooms who are trying to plan their own wedding and I find it heart-breaking that anyone should feel that way (though I do like the sound and idea of a romantic elopement!).


Planning a wedding should be something that brings happiness; where you can enjoy the process as much as the end result.


The whole planning process should be filled with fun, happiness, inspiration, creativity and discovery. But I know it’s sometimes so hard to overcome the ‘overwhelm.’


Feeling overwhelmed can happen to any of us; it’s an emotion that can very easily take a grasp of us and invite its friends, anxiety, misery and even sometimes depression to the party. So, remember you’re the host of both parties… the one in your head with all your emotions and your wedding. Did you watch that movie ‘Inside Out?’ You need to choose to override ‘overwhelm.’


My advice is to take it step by step. First of all, make a point to be strong in your stance that the wedding is about you and your partner, no-one else; it should be a privilege for anyone else to be involved, not a done deal that parents, Grandparents, family of friends take control, irrespective of who is footing the bill. This is about you as a couple and you only; end of.


Decide things together as a couple; close your eyes and imagine your day, how it feels, sounds, tastes and looks and keep this visualisation strong when you’re planning. Visualise yourself at your wedding looking and feeling happy and when wedding planning starts to overwhelm take a moment to bring this visualisation to the forefront of your memory. This is a great technique for not only coping with overwhelm but deciding on elements of your special day. Don’t just rely on Pinterest and magazines, use the power of visualisation to bring your own wedding to life.


If you can bring the visualisation along with its friends creativity, excitement and happiness to the party in your head, you are going to start to love the wedding planning process.


I’ll be focussing more on controlling anxiety, nerves and overwhelm over a series of blogs and articles dedicated to the Calm Bride and in my group #theweddingfixer at www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer so why not join me and share your experiences.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


AKA #theweddingfixer



By modefor, Jun 25 2018 08:54AM

Anna Elizabeth Weddings is a Scottish based luxury planner founded by the passionate and honest weddings and events professional, Anna Smith.

Establishing the luxury market in Scotland can be difficult, especially when many couples associate luxury wedding planning with hiring in planners from London, but Anna is fast proving that’s not necessary and she is the ‘go-to’ luxury planner in Scotland and with her eye for detail, she helps her couples to enjoy the whole process of wedding planning.

I caught up with Anna to ask her all about her fabulous business based in Edinburgh.


Name of your Business:

Anna Elizabeth Weddings and Events


Type of Business:

Luxury Wedding Planning


Where are you based?

Edinburgh, Scotland


Who is your target market?

Professionals wishing to get married in Scotland


What makes you happiest about your business?

Being able to help clients create their dream wedding. The best feeling is seeing the client on their wedding day, having the best day of their lives knowing that you helped them to achieve that.


What makes your business rock?

I pride myself in the fact that I am different to most wedding planners based in Scotland. I am there for the client for every single step of their wedding, day or night. I only take on a select number of weddings per year so that I can focus all my attention into them. Clients have the final say in every aspect of their wedding, I simply do all the research and delegation. Every client is presented with a number of suppliers in each aspect that fits their needs, they can meet with the suppliers, look at their work and then decide who they want to hire. After which I deal with all the liaising. Brides and Grooms are Chauffeur driven to find the venue of the dreams, Brides are treated to a Champagne Dress Day and Grooms to a Whisky Suit or Kilt Day. Along with some additional extras the couple are treated to a unique piece of classical music to accompany their walk down the aisle.



Thanks Anna for an insight into your fabulous luxury business.

Tabby xxx


For further details check out Anna’s website and social media accounts below.


Contacts and Social Media

www.annaelizabethltd.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/annaelizabethltd

Instagram: @annaelizabethltd

Twitter: @annaelizabehtlt

'Phone: +44 (0) 131 622 0452

e-mail: hello@annaelizabethltd.com





By modefor, Jun 11 2018 10:20AM

We kicked-off June with a fabulous wedding at The Arches as Dean Clough. The wedding of Jamie and James.


This fabulous couple had everything organised and it was all about foliage, ferns, fabulous food and fun.


They actually held their wedding ceremony at Gibson Mill at Hardcastle Crags which is a beautiful National Trust hidden gem in Hebden Bridge before coming over to The Arches in a vintage bus. Then it was time for a few photos, a three-course sit down meal from the in-house caterers Eat Me - Drink Me and dancing, all night long!


There were some great extra touches too with succulent favours, giant games supplied by Add Vintage, our favourite photobooth Herman from Volkswagen Wedding Company. Florals were by The Willow Garden.


The first sneak of official photos from Lianne Gray Photography are absolutely fabulous too.


Check out our behind the scenes images HERE.


Congratulations Jamie & James.

Much Love

Tabby xxx


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