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By modefor, Jun 12 2019 08:58AM

We’ve all heard the term ‘Bridezilla.’


I’m so thankful that I’ve always had the best clients and never had any ‘Bridezillas.’


But I want to introduce you to another player in the wedding planning and wedding day scenario.

The ‘Mumzilla.’


One of the greatest causes of stress for couples when planning a wedding is a ‘Mumzilla,’ as this is a creature no-one will or can say ‘No’ too!


But I do say a massive ‘NO’ to the Mumzilla.


When it comes to planning a wedding, there is a role for everyone to play, even if that’s just a supporting role, but the most important thing to remember is this wedding only belongs to two people; the couple getting married.


Unfortunately, whilst sometimes it does come from a place of love and wanting to help, some Mums overstep the mark; running the show, making the decisions, controlling the guest list, deciding on the décor, choosing the canapés and even picking the dress. None of these responsibilities fall on a ‘mum’ unless it has been specifically requested or for a particular reason that the couple can’t do it themselves.


Now, I’ve actually met a few Mumzillas and I am not scared of them and have put them back in their cages, but often I see Mums swooping in and controlling the whole shebang when the couple would love nothing more than a ‘do’ in the back garden with all their mates and beer pong, but what they got was a full stately manor with white doves.


The bottom line is, if you’re a Mum, rein it in. Check in with yourself that you're not being a little OTT. This is NOT your wedding. Be supportive, be exactly what your offspring need you to be, but don’t take over the show and you certainly don’t get to dictate what and how things are done or who comes to celebrate, even if you are footing the bill. Of course, you get to make requests and have ideas and be a part of the process if that’s right, but even if you’re financially responsible, this payment does not give you the authority to hijack the whole day.


Let the couple have their day.


Help your daughter be the calm bride or son be the calm groom. Help, love and support, please do not add to the stress, strain and already present pressure that comes with planning a wedding.


Got a Mumzilla issue? Drop me a message and I’ll help you reduce the stress levels.


Much Love

Tabby xxx


#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy

By modefor, May 14 2019 08:52AM

Dear Brides


Are you finding planning your wedding slightly overwhelming?


Do you feel anxious about fitting in ‘that’ dress?


Do you feel stressed out by family or friends?


Are you fighting battles over who you should invite, be that adults or children?


Are you worried about sticking to budget?


Do you just want to enjoy the whole process but don’t feel that you can?


Are you nervous about being the centre of attention?


Are you concerned that members of your family won’t get along on the day?


Are you starting to dread your own wedding day?


Has the answer to any of the above questions been ‘yes’?


If so, I want to help you and take all that stress away and become calm and stress free.


This week is #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek and your mental wellbeing should be a priority during the planning of your wedding and that’s what I’m here to help you with.


With over two decades planning and producing events and weddings I have helped thousands of clients and what my brides will tell you is how I kept them calm and made the whole planning process and wedding day stress free.


This is my aim and my focus is on your wellbeing as you prepare for one of the most exciting experiences of your life. I’m here to support you as you plan your big day.


Working with you for just one session to get your mindset in a good place or throughout your engagement I will help you to develop the mental resilience to love every moment of your wedding journey. ‘The Calm Bride’ is for you and what you will become.


Working exclusively with you to plan and produce your wedding or working alongside your existing planner and suppliers, my priority is you and my expertise and experience are at your disposal.


Want to know more? Then contact me via our website for more information on becoming #thecalmbride


Much Love

Tabby xxx

#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy




By modefor, Jun 11 2018 10:20AM

We kicked-off June with a fabulous wedding at The Arches as Dean Clough. The wedding of Jamie and James.


This fabulous couple had everything organised and it was all about foliage, ferns, fabulous food and fun.


They actually held their wedding ceremony at Gibson Mill at Hardcastle Crags which is a beautiful National Trust hidden gem in Hebden Bridge before coming over to The Arches in a vintage bus. Then it was time for a few photos, a three-course sit down meal from the in-house caterers Eat Me - Drink Me and dancing, all night long!


There were some great extra touches too with succulent favours, giant games supplied by Add Vintage, our favourite photobooth Herman from Volkswagen Wedding Company. Florals were by The Willow Garden.


The first sneak of official photos from Lianne Gray Photography are absolutely fabulous too.


Check out our behind the scenes images HERE.


Congratulations Jamie & James.

Much Love

Tabby xxx


By modefor, Jun 4 2018 09:25AM

One of the most valuable things we can be is honest but, being honest with ourselves is tricky and this is especially true when it comes to our own wedding.


Therefore, it’s time to get honest, realistic and believe in your own integrity when it comes to planning your wedding.


Let me break it down a little into three key areas, in no particular order (and btw… there are plenty more things you can get honest about, not just these! Don’t even start me on children at weddings and traditions such as cake cutting and first dances!)…


Pinterest


Firstly, whilst I love Pinterest for inspiration and general nosiness, get off it when making your final planning decisions for your wedding. Get your own wedding and stop stealing someone else’s! Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what YOU and YOUR partner really want. Don’t just copy someone else’s wedding or ideas that some professionals put together for a styled shoot. These images are there to be inspiration for you and not for you to carbon copy. So, close your eyes, imagine your big day… what does it look like? Honestly? Now create this vision.


Budget


Yep, the big ‘taboo’ that you need to be really honest about because quite simply, starting married life in debt purely from a party you were paying for where everyone else ate and drank sucks! So, be realistic and honest. Pick your budget truthfully and stick to it. You can have the most amazing wedding on a small budget. These big fancy expensive weddings do not make you any happier in married life than an elopement and quiet dinner with just the two of you.


Small budget does not mean missing out. It’s an opportunity to get wise and savvy financially and produce a wedding which is the truest reflection of you both as a couple with the people you love most around you. Which brings me on to my third point…


Family


Get really brutally honest here. If you don’t like them, don’t see them and have nothing to do with them, why would you invite them? Especially if it was at the detriment of a friend who has shared so much with you or quite simply just makes you laugh and you want them at your party? Being related does not give people the right to expect an invitation to your wedding. Now, I’m not suggesting a lack of sensitivity and being mean in not inviting family members but remember this is your wedding and you get to choose who you share it with. You could always do a separate informal family party to invite them all if you have heaps of family but actually want some friends at your wedding. You must be honest to yourselves and do exactly what you feel comfortable with. Don’t think you are at the mercy of any historic traditions and protocols; you’re not. This is about the two of you and by the way, just because someone contributes to funding your wedding does not give them the right to dictate your guest list. Be calm, compromise but be honest about your feelings and be empowered to take control of your wedding.


Tabby xxx


By modefor, Mar 27 2017 01:55PM

A week on from being in Switzerland working with the fabulous musicians of the Echo du Jorat Brass Band, I’ve been pondering why the concert Simon and I took part in had such a huge impact on me when, to be quite frank, the idea of playing in a brass band concert in the UK leaves me somewhat cold these days.


That’s not to say I haven’t enjoyed a couple of the last concerts I’ve played in here in Blighty. Before Christmas I had the great pleasure of playing for the Rothwell Temperance Band in two concerts and well, what a band that is! A superb standard band with a great Musical Director that puts a little twist on the musical choices to keep programmes fresh, plus a full, appreciative audience. What a great combo!


The fact is though, I loved our Switzerland gig because it wasn’t just a concert. It was a whole performance and event packaged up with every element that made the musicians and audience happy and wanting more.


For years, bands, choirs and other musical groups in the UK have put on a concert for audiences to enjoy, but with a decline in audience sizes, less disposable income for people to spend on attending concerts and let’s face it, a general apathy towards supporting the arts, concerts are struggling to compete with other social invitations.


Maybe it’s just because groups are not offering the paying guests enough? Maybe it’s time for a shake-up and to think outside the box.


The format for our Swiss adventure went something like this….

8.30pm – Concert… A great concert in two halves with new music, easy listening music, great soloists (all of which did an encore of their entire solo again). During the interval, there was the usual drinks, raffle etc… everything you’d expect to help ‘up the revenue.’

11pm – Concert finishes. Lots of happy musicians and very happy paying guests…none of which leave the venue….


So, what happens next you may ask? Well, it was at this point that everyone chipped in and seemingly this was just the beginning of the night… A local folk band started playing, people started dancing, the local food and wine was flowing, everyone had their role to play and there was a room of the biggest, happiest party I’ve seen in a while…and they were still going five or six hours later! It was truly brilliant and a tremendous, happy atmosphere.


But it isn’t rocket science to make it such a success; quite simply the concert wasn’t just a concert. It was a whole performance event and party which became a great celebration of music, food and drink.


Now, like the best culinary recipes, surely that’s the way forward with performances…simple quality ingredients put together well to create the ultimate sensation.

Food (and music) for thought…


Tabby xxx




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